I’ve had a handful of people reach out to me recently with a variety of personal questions, and the same recurring theme has been running through all of the conversations had. It seems no matter what our troubles, the personal steps needed to take to get us from where we are now to where we want to be, are the same.
So! I’ve put this blog post together as I feel we could all take something away from it 🤓 These are my top 10 self-development tools to implement into your life to get you from where you are now, to where you want to be! (Regardless of where that is!)
1. Meditate daily
Whether it’s 5, 10 or 15 minutes, set aside some time to close your eyes, focus on your breath and quiet your mind. If your mind wanders (and it will) simply recognize that and return to focusing on your breath. Many people put off mediation because they’re not in the right headspace, which is ironic because mediation is the tool we need to get in that right headspace! The same way a bodybuilder wouldn’t wait around till they have muscles to go to the gym.
2. Write down your gratitude. Daily
Gratitude is the key to happiness, to manifesting what you desire, to life! Put pen to paper and write down your gratitude every single day. This immediately raises your vibration/mood and will be a constant reminder for how many great things you have in your life. The more you are grateful for, the more great things you will attract into your life.
If you are going through a tough time right now and are finding it hard to find things you’re grateful for – keep it really simple. E.g. “I am so grateful I can see! I am so grateful I can lift myself out of bed in the morning! I am so grateful I can buy all the food I want! I am so grateful I can feel the sun on my face!” You get the picture. I personally write 10 things
3. Never stop working on yourself.
I think a mistake so many of us make, is that we stop educating ourselves and learning once we leave school/university. The truth is, we can never know enough! Most of this stuff was never taught to us growing up anyway.
Consistently working on ourselves is absolutely necessary if you have any interest in becoming the best version of you possible and achieving the things you desire out of life. One of the most important questions to ask yourself is “Who do I need to become for this to be so?” And then get to work becoming that version of yourself.
Invest in self-development books, podcasts, watch inspiring youtube videos. Expand your mind every day!
4. Believe in yourself
No one else’s opinion matters more than your own. So many of us are caught up in other people’s opinions and what others think of us that we end up playing small to fit inside of their box (or society’s box) of approval. This is the biggest dishonour we can do ourselves.
If you feel pulled in a certain direction, if you feel inspired or excited about an idea you had or a new path to take, don’t let the fear of what others might think determine the outcome of your life and the actions that you take towards YOUR happiness. This will only lead to regret and resentment.
Everyone has their own perception on what is ‘good’ or ‘bad’, ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, but that doesn’t make it accurate. Just accurate to that individual. Listen only to yourself and to the people who have already achieved what you want. Put blinders up to everyone else’s opinion. Even if they “have your best interest at heart” doesn’t mean that it’s truth, it’s only their own conditioned beliefs about life. Believe in your dreams and your ability to achieve them. Your only limitations are the ones you put on yourself. You’ve got this.
5. Fine tune your goals.
Our goals and desires are always evolving and being molded into a new and better version of themselves. As we grow and improve, so do our desires.
Perhaps you don’t even know the specifics of what you’re after yet, but you know what you want life to feel like. Follow that feeling and don’t be timid to admit to yourself what it is that you really want.
6. Stay in your truth.
Be true to yourself – whatever that means for you. Forget what you think you should be doing in life, or what you should have achieved etc. Those ‘shoulds’ are bullshit and have been put in your mind by someone else. In fact, eliminate the word should from your vocabulary entirely.
Turning 30 and think you should have kids by now, but really you just wanna focus on your career? Heck
7. Follow your intuition and gut feeling.
It’s telling you something for a reason, listen up! I can’t stress this one enough. When we follow our intuition, that gut feeling we have, that knowing – amazing things happen! When we ignore it? Not so much.
We all know deep down what we’re being called to do, no matter what situation you’re in. The key is to differentiate between that feeling, that truth, and what your mind is just telling you. Quiet the mind, tune in to the feeling.
8. Rest well and get enough sleep.
We can’t pour from an empty cup right? We can’t give our all, and perform at our best if our energy levels are below par. It sounds obvious, but so many of us don’t give ourselves enough downtime. Watch less T.V, say no to social events you don’t want to go
9. Stay hydrated and nourished.
As I said above, so many of us don’t give ourselves what we need to really thrive and give our all! We only have one body, and without health we truly have nothing.
So surely, putting food in ourselves that truly nourishes, energizes and strengthens our bodies is a no-brainer right? And water is
10. Self-awareness and self-honesty.
Basically, be real with yourself. You know you, what you want and what makes you happy better than anyone else. Really take the time to analyze what makes you happy and what doesn’t and be unapologetic about it.
Don’t be afraid to be who you really are – there can never be another you and that is your strength baby! By doing so, you’re also giving others permission to be their true selves too. Because if we try and be someone we’re not, there’s only so long we can hold up the charade until we crash and burn. Forget who you think you should be, the world needs the real you.